Being transphobic with gender identity issues

Hello blog,

Been doing alot of hard thinking and self-evaluation as I am preparing to try ketamine treatments as I way to get out of the unmovable rut that I am in.  It is hard for me to be honest and vulnerable IRL so I am using this platform once again to reveal parts of the hidden me.

Lately I have been returning to the trying to classify what I am and reviewing the thoughts, feelings and actions that I return to.   

What I have come up with is that I am self-transphobic with gender identity issues (I don't like the term gender identity disorder).

I don't know if this classification exists in the world or I just made things up, but it does seem clear to me in my head.

I feel like I have the gender identity each day, each moment when I look at the image of me and spend so much time to have a different body, a different sex, a different gender that the one I am forced in.

And then when I think these things, I feel ashamed. I feel guilty.  I feel so much self hate and anger at myself.

Admitting that I am transgender at any degree makes me so uncomfortable because I am transphobic.  Not towards others as I am so happy for them (although I feel jealous at times), but towards myself as having these feelings.  I doubt self-transphobia is a thing as one is probably transphobic or not, but I am giving myself permission to define it.

I am very skeptical that ketamine will be able to get me past my gender issues and/or being self-transphobic.  I doubt that it will get me to be able to address these things in real life and make much of a difference going forward.

What I am hoping, is that it may give me a bit of space to be self compassionate and to be honest and vulnerable.  I'm hoping that I can get past thinking or talking about these things without the mountain of shame and self-hatred that leads me to depression and suicidal thoughts.  I'm hoping that it will not cause more negative feelings inside of me.

So there it is and I think I am just may be making shit up but maybe I am getting somewhere. 

I don't have any clue what to do about being self-transphobic with gender identity issues which is so much more important to me that defining it.

Really I don't know much.

Considering K

 Hello blog,

I have had a lot of things on my mind lately even if it seems like there is not really much different day to day.  It is hard for me to gauge that though as living with chronic depression means that each day really feels like an endless stream of hopelessness and why bother and each day is only a checkmark on a calendar.

I literally would be hard pressed to think of anything I am looking forward to and really have been battling the constant self harm voices that seem so ever present.   Even the cutting sessions that I have seem pointless and not really make me feel any different either way.

After alot of advice, I have started to consider again ketamine therapy treatments as a possible path to move me from the stuck hole of depression I seem to wallow within.  I have been told this will help reframe my thinking and change my thoughts as this big term neuroplasticity keeps being thrown out to me.

I feel rather hopeless and skeptical of this changing anything, but feel like I don't have a choice in it.  I have researched and visited three facilities prior and think this will be last opportunity for it for me. 

I'm really scared of it but my therapist says that this is really fear of change.  I have so much self-hate and self-loathing of myself regardless of the gender and worried that this will just magnify those feelings. I have been feeling vey suicidal and thinking about those things and worry this may override any self-preservation that has been keeping me around.  Maybe that's a good thing.  Regardless, I feel that my spouse and therapists are pushing and I have no choice but to go through with it.  My thoughts and feelings are usually opposite of reality so I am going to have to give this a chance I believe.

I know I don't want to go on like this but I don't know if I want to change.   My life is all fucked up and I guess that is why I use this to escape.  I just wish I had some idea of what going forward would look like and had had any idea what to do.

I'm a fake

Hello blog.

I sitting here feeling small and sad today.  It is quiet, dark and I am all alone with just a keyboard and my tears. I have been writing and living in this virtual world for a really long time and I feel that this is all I will ever be.  I see some many other people out there in the real world that have strength and courage to follow their dreams and hopes and I am so happy for them.  

I wish it could be me, I wish I could have others encouraging me and have the strength to live and be what I feel inside but I can't.  I don't know why and can't but the explanation into words but I feel shameful and helpless and trapped.

Instead of the virtual persona that I pretend here,  I feel like a fraud a fake a pathetic person sitting alone in the dark typing. I am so miserable and so depressed and each day brings more of the same unfulfilled shitty day as the last.

I am so so sad and can't stop crying to myself. I hate myself for being me.